That's a Tough Cookie.

Yahoo! pops up everytime I click on my internet explorer. Usually I'd scroll down and click to another webpage before it even starts to load. The connection today seemed rather smooth so for some reason yahoo! loaded up alot faster than usual. So guess what caught my eye when I was scrolling through the page?

Is keeping quiet about something the same as telling a lie?

The best answer chosen was..

"There are two types of lies...lies of commission where you tell something that is not true so you commit a lie and lies of omission in which you do not tell anything but you omit the truth. Both can be very hurtful and the only way people can make good sound decisions is if they know the truth. Ask yourself if you would want someone to omit a truth you needed to know."

I mean like duh, certainly all of us would say that we want to know the truth. I think the real hard bit is..

knowing when to tell the truth and when not to.

Obviously we'd know what to say when things are black or white, but what about when things are in the grey area?

For instance, what if you're good friends with two people and one of them cheated on the other? Usually, people would say that depends on which one you're closer with since there'll always be a closer friend between the two. What's worse is if you did think you were suppose to tell, and one decides to forgive the other.

In the end, they end up all good and you'll probably lose both friends for telling the truth because one of them are pissed off at you and they influence their partner to start hating you. Or if things turned sour, then the other would wind up calling you a nosey biatch and everyone would blame you for the break up. Wouldn't things turn out better if you stfu-ed? Other chicks would be like aren't we suppose to be tight? You're suppose to tell me everything right! Good god.

Then you have other sensitive issues like if you saw so and so's dad or mom screwing up. Or maybe things like if one of your good friend accidentally kissed your other buddy's car and he/she didn't want to apologise not due to financial problems, but because the other person may flare into the biggest temper you've ever seen and he/she was afraid. But she'd ask if you could borrow her car and get it fixed and he/she'll pay for it so that all would end well.

You know they are nice but you just don't know what you're supposed to say or do. If you told then they'd know you told because you know your angry friend would voice their opinion and you're in trouble again.

What about the case when one or two of your whiney friends are too possessive and are control freaks? You can't tell them to ease it buddy because they didn't mean anything bad. It's so hard to try to tell your good friends things directly without trying to hurt them. But then you get blamed for not saying things outright. When you do they start being indenial and you're at fault again.

So dude, even if I would love for you to tell me the truth, I dunno htf I'm supposed to because you'll have all those dramas unfolding again. Phew. Yes, tell me about it.

Now when they say,

"ask yourself if you would want someone to omit a truth you needed to know,"

I'm just gonna have to say I'd rather start straightening up and try to be smarter myself just so I don't have to think of that question and try to tell you what's going on and die trying to be your good friend aight. That is selfish but hey, I'd try to advise you indirectly to turn the other way before I turn a blind eye to things, but if you're still the same I seriously can't do nothing now can I.

What say you? Isn't it a tough cookie?

p/s: some of the situations stated are just examples.